Get Real with It Oscar Joe Dais

Oscar Joseph Dais was born in the Bronx. He currently lives in Pamona, NY. He was one of 13 children, raised within the projects, and had no father figure in his life. His parents died within two weeks of each other when he was young. He went into selling drugs and robbery to survive.

 He was not scared about dealing drugs within the dangerous streets because he felt certain that he was going to die too. Shortly after his parents died, a lot of his siblings died within the next few years and currently there are only five of his siblings alive today.

 He became more vested to turn his life around after his parents died because at a young age he had promised his mother he would go to college. He struggled in college because he read at a 7^th grade reading level but he graduated and is very successful today. After becoming a father he realized that he wanted the very best for his kids and be a dad for them that he never had. He wanted to do great things with and for his children, hoping for their future that they would have great accomplishments. He is proud today to be able to say that one of his boys attended Harvard.

 This talk was a part of his Transform Your Life Speaking Tour traveling to high schools and colleges doing presentations. He has written a book that is soon to be released called Success Doesn’t Come to You: You Go To It.  He encouraged the audience to enlarge their minds. Do not lose out because you do not take advantage of opportunities while in college. He explained that you need to be careful who your friends are, spend time with people who encourage you, and want the best for you, and weed out the ones that are not beneficial to you. Use your talents, leave a legacy of people you have helped, and believe you deserve the best. Have a plan B that includes something or someone to fall back on while making the right choices.

 There are three different types of people in our society: the player, the wanderer, and the watcher. The player gets involved and does amazing things, the wanderer walks around and never gets satisfied, and the watcher observes the player but never really does anything. Be a player, get involved, network, seek people to help you, and do not miss out on enriching opportunities. Success in life is a journey, savor it, and take advantage of the amazing ride remembering that anything is possible.